*hugs* I wish you all the best and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

I know, I worked with kids for a while as my moms assitant. Though it doesn't help that I have trust issues with those that I don't know.

I was the child of a semi-overprotective mom, and I can't say that my mom never did things that I dissagreed with or disliked, however I do understand why she did them. Some of them it turned out to be a good thing that she did, others not as much.

One of the other issues I have is that the other family members only seem interested in my baby and not in getting to know me, which makes me feel very unwanted/unliked by his family, which inturn makes me not wanting to be around them at all...My baby and I are a pair, they can't expect to see her and me not be there. It would also help if the others would be willing to listen to me and my fiance on things that can be done with our daughter.

*hugs* Thanks Kalores

Ahhhh, I see.

Well, look at it from teh human psychology persepctive - babies are adorable. adults are not.

That's about all there is to it. There will coo over your child because she is adorable; she is innocent. You, as her mother, is much less adorable and innocent. Humans are very family and children oriented. As a result, they are much more interested in their blood relations and any children involved. It's rare that a family that is not related to you by blood cares as much for you as they do about their blood family/ immediate family. Speaking generally, of course. There are always, ALWAYS exceptions

Yeah, it's just saddening for me because my family is, and always has been small. And now I'm supposed to be apart of his family when they just keep showing me that I'm not, and that for all intents and purposes I'm not welcome.

I know kids/babies are cute...but the parents should matter to the relitives too, not just the kids. The parents are people too, which is part of what buggs me so much about family gatherings with my fiances family...they only care about the kids/babies...they don't really connect with the other adults they make it look like it, but it comes off to me as rather forced/fake. Oh, but the kids whole other story.

Why do you think that is?

I think it is because children is where we can make sure we have an impact on life. We easily influence the children around us. If we influence the child to be the way we want them to be, then you feel satisfied. You left your mark on the world. You were important.

Also because children represent the innocence that adults have lost. Once you are an adult, you either lose your innocence or your life. Children aren't faced with that choice most of the time. They bring back fond memories - of either seeing children, being a child or of raising a child.

In my case, it would be that they remind me of times lost... Of things I can't get back, but I can remember them throigh the children around me. I've never raised a child, and I won't for at LEAST another 10 years.

Sorry Fai

I can relate to you very well. I am from a small family and a very small town. I have PTSD I hate big crowds and can be very flighty.
I can also relate to not feeling wanted. But I feel that with my own family. They want to see my son, but generally I feel very unwelcome.

So *hugz*

Found out that the total number of people is only going to be like six people that I don't know, plus me, my fiance, my fiances mom, and my daughter for a grand total of 10 people...which is still a bit much for me...

I'm use to 5 or 6 being to total at most...but hopefully things will be ok.