A while back I posed a query about how you guys felt about released pets. Now I'd like to ask you guys something we all do:

Pinging. There are no set rules on pinging. But when is it appropriate? When is it too much?

Years ago I did something I didn't normally do and pinged an acquaintance to a particular thread. This user got very upset at me. Turns out, on their profile they plainly stated something like "Don't ping me." Well, I hadn't seen their profile until after they got so upset at me and I went to message them an apology.

Anyways~ I've never pinged someone for something like that again as I'm quite apprehensive now.

I feel that, generally, if someone has posted something in a thread, and you are responding to what they've said, then it is okay to ping them. As long as they didn't say "don't ping me" in their message, obviously. But what if they respond to what you said without pinging you. Should you take their lead and not ping them back when you respond?

I'm just curious how people feel. Personally, I love getting pinged; makes me feel loved. Even if it is for nonsense that I don't care about.

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Friend Requests. Something I see a lot of in people's profiles is "No random friend requests!"

I guess I sort of understand why people do not like this: new users tend to add anyone and everyone, and then quit playing. They never say anything to you yet they want to be your friend. I don't get why newbies tend to add randomly, but they do.

Sylestia's friend system is a lot different than other sites. If someone adds me as a friend and I accept, I'm on their contact list, but they are not on mine. I would have to add them, too, for them to be on my list. So... My list stays nice and neat with only actual friends.

That being said, I'm curious what you guys feel about it. If you don't like random friend requests, why? Is it just the excitement that there's something important and then it turns out to be a form of spam? Or is it just annoying to have to hit the decline button? Or something else?

No wrong answers, I'm just curious how you guys feel. Thanks for taking the time to read and answer! ^-^

to be honest, I hate when im not pinged much XD!

Personally, I have no real opinion on either. I don't mind being pinged to things that people think I might find interesting. If I don't find it interesting then I just ignore it an move on with my life. With friend requests I'm happy to accept randoms. I see it as a way to get easy nurtures for my pets if people use the 'my and my friends pets' option on the nurturing page, to be honest.

I have run into a few people that don't like to be pinged, but when I've accidentally pinged some of those people to a thread, I've found them to be clear, but kind, in saying that they would prefer not to be pinged to threads without previous permission, so I don't mind that at all.

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pings are fun!
I love being pinged and getting a new ping is always exciting!
^{I've been pinged! what could it be? an answer to my thread? admin post? news on some project? :3}
people saying "don't ping me" on their profiles - well, I think they are just really busy and seing another ping they didn't ask for, is annoying to them :c
and finally, if a person replies to me (and I know it's meant personally for me) with no ping, I ping them when responding saying something like "you didn't ping me, sorry". so far, no one has answered "I didn't ping you on purpose", it usually turns out they've forgotten or didn't know how to ping. :3


friend requests are okay.
Sylestia system of friends is really a bit strange, but I don't mind, I'm fine with it. however, I have my policy: I accept all the friend requests; I never send a request back. that's it. if a person wants me on their contact list, I won't stop them - I mean, it's their list after all. and I, well, I don't need a list to remember which people I'm familiar with.

(how silly is it that i'm not sure if I should ping you or not in this thread? If I have even a shadow of doubt in my mind, I don't ping, lol. But I have no problems against being pinged myself ^^;)

I get really nervous about pinging people for some reason. I've never ever been told not to, so I'm not sure where my apprehension comes from. Probably some form of my irl anxiety creeping into my online life.

But for things like my project threads, I always get worried that people on my ping lists will lose interest or be annoyed if I ping them too much. I try to keep my pings limited to big updates and things that directly impact interested parties...and I always feel the need to include an option for people to unsubscribe from my lists. I know it's probably silly to be so anxious about it, especially when people ask me to be pinged for updates xD But I just can't get over the uneasiness.

Outside of my own threads I tend to only ping if I'm responding to someone I'm talking to one-on-one. I have never pinged someone to a thread they didn't explicitly tell me they wanted to see - I would be too scared of getting yelled at ;w;

One time I pinged Krin to ask him to move a thread, and I had to sit and stare at my post for a full twenty minutes before I could post it. It terrified me. Even though Krin himself isn't intimidating, and I knew he wouldn't tear me into tiny pieces just for asking him to move a thread, the thought of pinging him freaked me out ^^;;

As for friend requests, I really don't mind getting them. I tend to do the same as others have said - I'll accept requests but rarely send them back unless I know the person. I like to help out new players, so i think they see my posts in help threads or something and add me. I don't mind. ^-^

I liked being pinged and don't mind random friend requests. :)

I don't mind being pinged when it's something that someone genuinely thinks I'd be interested in, if it's someone responding to me, or in some other way involves me. Unfortunately, I do find myself being pinged a bit more than I like at times but it's never been too bad. I personally use caution when pinging others and hope that I use it when appropriate. I don't know Krin's preferences but when asking questions on news threads I don't ping him. I just wait for him to see it and respond.

I took friend requests from everyone for a very long time, but I finally stopped because I started having more problems with newer players who started messaging me. There were ones who were spamming me with sale threads, and there's been a few who just didn't understand that I needed some space particularly since I never knew them before and I have anxiety issues. I decided after that that I'd rather know someone first before accepting a friend request.

Of course I don't mind helping new players at all with advice towards the game via my inbox, or meeting them in general/region chat and having a friendly conversation.