Okay, so first thing's first: there used to be this girl and her family who went to my church. She was 14 at the time and I was 17-18. Now, at first I was her best and only friend and her only real good influence in her life. (Everyone else that she knew/knows talks badly about her behind her back and are not exactly the kind of people you would bring to your grandma.) So, after a scandal with her family involving her and her stepdad (not of her accord, mind you) her life and behavior took a turn for the worse.

There is an offender living in her house, the girl ran away from home at 15 and she acts rude and disrespectful to everybody, regardless of who you are. It's the total opposite of who she was before, but she still tried to be my friend. Now, I tried to tolerate her, but after today, I am no longer her friend.

Here is what happened: me and my entire family and church have her on Facebook because she added us. Today she tagged me in a picture that said she was "Bored as (insert cuss starting with an F here)". My dad (politely!) posts: "Please watch your language." Her response? In nearly illegible chat speech, she rudely tells him to get off her Facebook if he doesn't like it. I naturally defend my dad politely. One of her friends posts for me to "Shut up". And what does she do to her so called 'best' friend and 'sister by love' (me)? She gives her rude friend PROPS and tells me that she isn't a Christian and she doesn't give an f-word about what my dad or me thinks.


I'm sorry, what?

What does being a CHRISTIAN have to do with being POLITE AND RESPECTFUL??

I have had soooo many people who weren't even remotely god worshiping, and they still had enough character and self control to respect me and everyone else!

Right before I blocked her on Facebook, I saw that another person that she's friends with pointed out how she was out of control and didn't respect anybody. I would love to be friends with that person instead!

Look, I don't care what religion or race you are and I don't care what your morals are. If you disrespect me, my family or my friends (especially if we are being polite and respectful to you), I am not friends with you. Period. Our friendship will be over on the spot.


Ugh, I wish I could say all of this to her face, but I am so disgusted I never want to see or talk to her again. Seriously, I'm glad everyone is so nice here. I won't have to deal with disrespectful 'friends' on here (I hope!!).

Wow...poor you and that girl. That's a big personality change...hopefully she'll blow over soon...I can't give you any good advice, though. But I've gotta admit, that is quite rude. As mad as I ever get, I don't do that. Even when I'm depressed and worried or anything, I'm just not able to be very rude at all... Even if I try. I'm too nice, you could say! XD I hope everything goes back to normal soon!

Thank you for your words. :) I'm calmer now, and not as angry, but I feel so horrible for her. :( Things were starting to be great for her for once in her life and then the scandal happened and...well...*Sighs* I did enjoy being her friend, even with the age gap. She is like a sister to me, it breaks my heart to see her as she is now. :(

Hey, try thinking about the good times you've had with her. Try not to think about what she's doing now. Or you can talk to me, I can't really give good advice, but I try.

I think that the "scandal" has severely affected her emotionally and mentally. It sounds like she has probably never sat down and talked about it to anyone, either because she is to embarrassed or ashamed to, or doesn't have anyone that she can really trust to talk to, or both.
When something like that happens people tend to do one of two things...either hold it all in and become a quiet reclusive person, or act out in a rebellious and angry manner.

For someone to have such a drastic change of character in such a short period of time, and especially when it can be pin pointed to a certain thing happening in there life...it calls for deeper looking into.

It can be tough, if not impossible to try and like/communicate with someone that now has a social problem as you mentioned....but you knew her before the change and the type of person that she really is...and still is......its just buried beneath the ugly rebellious one that is showing now.

Try to subtly use some "reverse" psychology on them if you ever do find yourself having to talk with them again. This person really needs some help and to be able to talk about whatever is bothering her to someone she can confide in.

Oh and the Christian thing.....religion has nothing to do with it..its called manners and "self" respect.

Of course the other option is to completely ignore them and shut them out of your life for good, kind of the option you decided upon for now..........let some time go by and give it some thought...... ;)