Yes, anger issue are a problem. I had some as a young teenager, which actually came from the fact that my mother never listened to me when I tried to speak calmly.
But you should still try even if it's hard, because a burst of anger often make things even worst (they're toxic for you, and annoys your mum even more).


I both agree and disagree with the ones who say all mothers are like that.
All mothers are like that, to some extent. All mothers ask their children to do some chores, and all mums make reproaches to their children when they do bad things.
But if the situation is so bad that it makes Osore feeling depressed, it's not normal anymore.
There is a difference between blaming someone if they had a part of something. It's not normal if they were only witnesses or were not even here and involved. It's not normal when they are blaming only one children everything. It's not normal when only one of the children has to do chores. It's not normal if a mum never takes the defence of their child. It's not normal if you're mother never comfort you when you're sad, never tries to understand you. It's not normal if you can't even have a normal conversation anymore with your mum without some kind of reproaches being involved. It's not normal if you're afraid to do normal things like shopping with your mum because you know that at some point she'll yell at you It's not normal if a mum bullies a child for their appearance/tastes etc.

Then, I know how bad things like this can go due to experience. I don't know exactly how bad your situation is.

If your situation is more like the first one with only some kind of reproaches and some chores to do, but you're still able to have some other conversations with your mum, laugh with her, do things with her, it's normal.


@DruidofBees
I think your mother told you to hide your sexuality because she knows some kids can be bullies and she wanted to protect you. She was wrong, people in your school were cool with it, but I still see love and care from your mother involved!
(Most people I know are bi/homo/pan told their friends before their parents because it was their reaction they feared the most, so your relation with your mother probably is not so bad^^)

I'm worrying because I don't really see anything that her mother does because she thinks about her, here. (or maybe the "fat" thing is due to the fact that she's worried she could be bullied in school? but Osore doesn't say it like that)

That's one toxic mom.
I would see a counsellor at school or out of school.

I think i might. But they all say the same thing, talk to her.

That's spot on. I'm afraid of going places with her because I know she will get mad at me.

Thank you for that very post. And my very short post back



I hate typing on my phone ;-;

Yes, then it's the same as it was with me.
Maybe instead of talking to your mum, try talking to your dad, or other member of your family who could help you? At least my dad cared and I was close to my grand-parents. Maybe your dad does nothing because he does not realize how bad you feel?
If you talk directly to your mum, there is a risk that she'll take it wrongly (or just not listen).
Do you have siblings, or are you a single child?

For me the situation only got better after my parents divorced, and my mum moved away, i stayed with my father and his family. Now I get along with her, as I see her only sometimes for the holidays, and we don't have a toxic anymore.

I would not tell you to try to make your parent divorce though XD. But would it be possible to get away from her for some time? Maybe you could consider going to a boarding school, so you'll not be always with her? Or to live with other family members?

I don't know why, but I just never trust school Councillors, seeing them just causes me a lot of stress, plus, they'd just tell my parents

That all seems harsh from her. Grounding for not liking spaghetti? i only WISH my main problem was my mom right now...

I can't talk to my dad. He goes with my mom.
I have a sister ( Bookdrive17 ) but she is in university away from home.


I wouldn't go to boarding school, but maybe a camp with friends. My papa lives in our house so uh
And my Grandma lives in a small home, and I would not want to spend an entire week with her. Former teacher, and very strict about teaching :/

My school councillors keep it to us only.

And if you lived in Canada, we have a Kids Help Hotline. It's for talking to someone who can help you and comfort you. I really wanna call them, but I get nervous and emotional.

Awful as it seems, i think the decent parents are more a rarity than nasty, controlling parents. i think, SOMETIMES, they have a decent motive for being strict. Most of the time i think i'm just glad the recent generations aren't big on the idea that you HAVE to get married and have kids, because not everyone is meant to raise children.

just do your best, bite your tongue, and get out and into college. go very far away, learn to live on your own. under her roof, respect her demands as best you can, but just. do your best to secure a future for yourself. learn how to cook, pay bills, etc, even if only theoretically -- so when it comes time to know, you don't have to scramble to learn then.

i wish you luck! i'm 24, high school dropout, and stuck with my mom who uses my mental health against me :D stay. in. school. finish high school. believe me. its the path to getting out!

OMG i feel you!

my mom yells at me alot
i have to babysit my 4!younger sibs when my mom is at my older sibs water polo games
I just finished being grounded by loading and unloading dishes for a week

I need a break