While I don't consider myself a noob, I have a question. How do you tell someone how you are feeling nicely? I have tried many times to say my opinion nicely only to get bashed for being "extremely rude" No matter how hard I try to make it right, they end up angry at me. It has become rather frustrating to me as I can't seem to understand what I did wrong. (They seem in no mood to tell me what I have done wrong or how to fix it) Please help! Pinging is appreciated

Youre going to have to give a lot more information than that. A specific example would be helpful. What are you trying to tell people specifically? Do you think theres a chance that you really were rude and just didnt realize?

It's possible, but how am I supposed to know if what I am saying is considered "rude" or not? One time there was a person who wanted to borrow some max stat pets. I had never met her before and she didn't seem to have very much money. I was kinda worried she might try to sell my pet in order to feed her pets.(I have had people on Sylestia take advantage of my kindness several times: saying they would level up to a certain level, ect) I told her that and she got really offended saying that she couldn't believe a noob would show so much disrespect to a veteran player. Even though I wasn't sure what I had done wrong, I apologized hoping to calm her down. Eventually, she only calmed down when another player stepped in.

"Rude" is actually a very subjective term that is subject to all sorts of differing social standards based on where we live and how we grew up. Social interactions on the internet can often be difficult because you can't use the same cues that you would instinctively use in real life (body language, tone of voice, etc.). You also don't know if the people in your chat room are 46 or 16. German or Brazilian. Male or Female. You have to make educated guesses on all of these unless told otherwise (and sometimes you shouldn't even believe it when they tell you).

That said, I can't make a judgement on what went wrong socially based on the information you gave. However, it does sound like you implied to them that you thought they were going to rob you. You have the right to say no but that doesn't mean you should tell them that you think they're going to rip you off. Just say no thank you and that you'd prefer not to.

Oh I remember that!! I even offered to help on that thread too. I never did let her borrow my pets because she became so irate to you. You have always been fair and just when I see you around.

Aww, thanks. Your comments always make me feel great about myself. :)

ok. I'll try to keep that in mind.

The thing is, I think you might be too blunt. Yes, honesty is good, but sometimes you just have to sort of word it differently so that it doesn't sound as offensive as it possibly could be.

For example, if I don't like a certain Theme design, saying "the ____ Theme is ugly" would probably be considered rude to whoever designed it. On the other hand, saying "I'm not a huge fan of this Theme design this year" sounds much less insulting. True, it can still be perceived as rude, yet it's not directly bashing the design either.

Keep in mind that giving every detail your exact motivation may not be helpful in communicating either. In that one case, I think if you had said "I'm not comfortable lending my pets," and simply leaving it at that, would have sufficed. If she had demanded them, then explaining further would be necessary, and you would clearly not be the one at fault. Calling someone broke, even if it is true, can be more than a little offensive. I'm not justifying her reaction, only trying to bring a slightly different perspective.